A Description of our Relationship in My Own Words

I sent the following to a friend who asked me to describe how our relationship works while avoiding M/s terminology. The "She" in this case is my Jezebel, my mouse.

First, you must understand that our relationship started with Recognition. What I believe to be an acknowledgment by our physical selves of the fact that our souls were already intertwined before we met. We found friendship, trust, and love before we discovered that we shared complimentary desires in relationship structure.

The foundation of our relationship is love, trust, openness, communication, and honesty. Without these things, what we do would not be possible.

The framework we constructed on this foundation is based on the mutual understanding that I am the final arbitrator within our relationship. Along with this, I also bear ultimate responsibility for both of our actions and well-being. This allows me a great deal of freedom in planning for our lives, but can also be difficult work. If I am not happy with the way something turns out, I cannot assign blame to her. An unsatisfactory outcome may be the direct result of her action (or inaction), but ultimately I am the one who allowed the action to begin with. I choose not to micro-manage or impose unnecessary restrictions on her because it doesn't suit either of us.

The skin that wraps this whole thing up and is what most people see is a playful and loving relationship between two intense but goofy people. This is a comfortable place for both of us to spend the majority of our time. Because we are both comfortable with the framework and foundation being sound and intact, we do not feel the need to actively demonstrate to ourselves or others that it exists and is sound. Instead we can play freely with the knowledge that when it comes down to it, I Say and She Obeys.